Let’s be honest. Whether it’s co-workers or family and friends, we all have to be around some people who are pretty annoying occasionally, right? Not everyone is the easiest to get along with and I’ve had my share of working with difficult people too. I’m going to be completely honest with you right now. As zen and peace loving as I try to be as a yoga instructor, I can get really annoyed with certain people. This includes family members and strangers.
There are always going to be difficult personalities that we find challenging because we all bring our different perspectives to the table and not everyone on this planet will think and feel the same way as us.
When we are stressed out, it’s easier to be annoyed with not only difficult people, but also those that don’t typically annoy us.
Here are 3 strategies for consideration when you encounter difficult people:
1. Be Quiet
Being quiet does not mean being weak: If it’s a petty situation, it’s not necessary to always stand up for yourself. Save your efforts for more worthwhile issues that would require more of your energy. Ask yourself if this will matter tomorrow or into the future. Is getting the last word in or living a healthy and somewhat peaceful life more important to you?
2. Shift Your Attention
Try shifting your attention elsewhere to remove energy from the tense situation. Silencing your reaction might shift the individual’s perspective. Sometimes people regret their behavior when they calm down. So if you choose to enter the battle, they are more likely to stick to their story and justify their behavior.
3. Choose Your Reaction
Remember, you can take your power back in an instant when someone gets on your nerves. Consciously choose your thoughts and reaction as this is your power. One way to prevent yourself from acting on impulse is to inhale deeply and let it out slowly. Choose an image like a mountain or lake to anchor your mind until the need to react passes.